This is a line from the Pixar movie, Finding Nemo. For those who are living in an alternative universe, who don’t have kids/grandkids/nephews/nieces or who are cut off from technology (and thus won’t be reading this blog), here’s the clip where the line takes place.
Anyway, I was ready to write about the most cool reward party ever: black light dodgeball. But, I won’t. I get to write about my senior daughter. (I’ll write about the black light stuff because it’s so FREEKIN’ cool!!)
#justdotherightthingplease
My daughter told her band instructor that “she won’t be doing her solo.”
#comeagain
She’s under a lot of stress working with vocal music, trying to memorize all these pieces of music for small group contest. I get that, I was heavy into music and always felt like there was too much there. However, I also did four years of tuba solos as well. My last solo wasn’t very good because I didn’t practice, didn’t take it seriously, and yes, it just imploded on itself.
#yupitwasmyfault
I have no issues with wanting to back off. But she’s made this into a power struggle with the band director, and we’ve told her: this won’t end well for you. You don’t start a fight without some logic you can back up your fight with. If my students come at with a whole bunch of attitude, no, they won’t budge me (I tend to be a bit stubborn when my dander is up). If they come in and lay out an argument with logic, I’ll at least give them the chance to present a solution.
Not with my daughter. Guns blazing, that’s her method. Not. Very. Smart.
With her impending graduation, we’ve decided rather than fight that battle, we let her figure it out as in six months, she’s got to be able to do it.
We are hopeful. Kind of. In a “please get it right” sort of way.
#insertmeeksmilehere
Parenting. Not for the weak of heart. 🙂
March 27, 2018 at 10:07 pm
Truer words were never spoken – parenting: not for the weak of heart. Ugh. It’s hard to watch our kids in these kind of stressful situations!
March 27, 2018 at 10:12 pm
Sometimes, a smack in the head and a “buck up Barbie” start to work their way out, then, it gets pushed back down and we just smile! 🙂
March 27, 2018 at 10:24 pm
Ugh. Mine are still little but I don’t look forward to these days. The take a deep breath and let them figure it out days. I love the use of hashtags throughout-it signals your understanding of her age.
March 27, 2018 at 10:31 pm
Thanks for the comment! I do understand her age, but yet, I sometimes think the hashtags are humor where I can find none! 🙂
March 27, 2018 at 11:04 pm
Oh my goodness! I can feel your tension and frustration and nerves. I teach high school seniors and I totally agree. If they come at me with all their guns blazing, they do not get what they want. In a power struggle, the teacher still has all the power. I hope she figures it out in a way that does not make you panic about her ability to survive college. Fingers crossed!
March 27, 2018 at 11:45 pm
Oh, you couldn’t pay me to go back to those years. Good for you for seeing the big picture, even a little, and for being willing to help her learn from her choices. #itgetseasier #ipromise
March 28, 2018 at 6:23 am
I hope it all works out for everyone. #youaresmarttojustsmile(meekly)
March 28, 2018 at 8:11 am
Oh no…the anguish and stress of raising teenagers. I guess the big question for her is whether or not this performance will have any effect on her college/degree choice. Music?
March 28, 2018 at 8:43 am
No, she’ll major in business of some short, but could miss out on some scholarships from the music department. I don’t know, she’s been a struggle since birth, and I don’t anticipate adulthood being a whole lot different!
March 28, 2018 at 11:01 am
Hopefully she’ll apply for academic scholarships, too, because I did not think my boys would get those scholarships and they did. 🙂
March 29, 2018 at 7:57 am
You’ll be surprised…about adulthood. I learned in a workshop that the brain is not fully developed for rational decision making until around 21-23s years of age (later end for boys). It was after that age, when we developed a fun relationship with our sons. A pleasant gift after the turbulent teenage years! 🙂 There’s hope!
March 29, 2018 at 9:13 am
Well, we can only hope that her brain develops then! 🙂
March 28, 2018 at 7:26 pm
Parenting not for the weak at heart. No s#/%. It’s brutal.