Today was a day.
#yesitwas
Yesterday was a day. I’ve missed my first Challenge blog in at least 5 years and I had some tough conversations with students.
Yesterday, I told my students I would not be in their school next year.
#WHAT
Yup. Over the weekend, many conversations were had, many texts and messages sent, and many, MANY thoughts were processed about this potential move. Now, I can’t say too much just because so many people in my area read this blog (again, a total shocker in my book), but know, it wasn’t a decision I took lightly. The last time I made a decision like this was when I took the job where I currently am, leaving a really good district in Missouri in 1999.
#damnyouareold
Hush. That decision brought us up here, having another child, moving to the country, and a whole bunch of other stuff too.
So yesterday, I told my students that I would not have them in class after this year.
One student looked me dead in the eye and ask, “Are you messing with us again??”
#heknowsyou
Yes, I’ve been known to keep a straight face while making something totally outlandish about lunch or the bus or something going in another room. The kids can’t read it and it’s awesome! But today, it was the truth. I’ll be a sixth-grade teacher in a new school, along with being a middle school basketball coach. Now, you might be thinking, don’t I do that already? I do, but I also have three sections of technology a day, a homeroom, and a WIN (what I need) time. That’s a lot of kids I see on a daily basis.
The new job won’t have near as many kids. They have really awesome technology. They paid me close enough to the salary I’m making to make that point moot.
But today wasn’t about me. It was about making sure my students knew it wasn’t about them. They’ve heard me us the phrase “I love what I do and I do what I love” too many times to doubt it. And I do love what I do. I cannot imagine a life without being a teacher. And I was sure that when we moved, this was the school I was going to retire from as well. That’s changed (obviously), but not my love for teaching. I let my students know they were the hold-up for me staying there. I love my classes: 6th, 7th, and even 8th grades. They fill my soul so many times I cannot even begin to out. I had one student say I wasn’t going to be able to coach their team (7th grade). Nope, I’m going to miss out on a really talented group. That was tipping the scale too.
But in the end, it wasn’t enough for me to stay. But they needed to know that I will miss them. They’ve brought me joy and anger, laughter and tears, but in the end, just being kids and feeling comfortable enough to do so around me makes my heart happy.
They asked a BUNCH of questions, several I’d not even thought about, but good questions all the same. A few had tears, which I said was ok.
In the end, I asked them to remember this, that someday, they’ll need to make a decision like this, one that’s so hard to do, but in the end, will be good for them.
This was a heartbreaking decision, but one that needed to be made, so I could be happy again.
March 14, 2023 at 11:55 pm
I’d admiring your conclusion. Your exit is another opportunity for a really important lesson. Best of luck in your next assignment. May you make a powerful impact there as you clearly have made at your current school.
March 15, 2023 at 12:00 am
I’ve been following you for a while on Twitter. Just signed up for email notifications for your blog.
I know your current students will think fondly of you from time to time. Go make some new student memories. Iowa needs educators like you!
March 15, 2023 at 12:00 am
I’ve had my share of goodbyes and moving. It can be hard. It would be worse if students were glad to see you go. A sad goodbye is strangely validating. I hope the move gives you what you need.
March 15, 2023 at 12:15 am
Oh, Darin, wow. That was hard. Peace to you as you continue the process of moving. It won’t be easy, but you did one of the hardest parts yesterday. I’m glad you will get to have a new situation that should be better for you. Sorry you broke that five year record of posts too! Wow.
March 15, 2023 at 8:08 am
Ripped that dang bandaid off and we went with it for sure! A weight has been lifted for sure.
And when a streak ends it just means another streak need to be started! 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 4:41 am
Good luck on the new journey … It sounds like a difficult but meaningful decision for you, and then something for your students to work through in the time ahead
Kevin
March 15, 2023 at 8:07 am
We’ll laugh and cry together at the end, this is am certain! 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 5:30 am
Change is hard, but new horizons and new adventures can be wonderful! Wishing you the very best-you deserve it!
March 15, 2023 at 8:06 am
Oh Deb, change is so hard for me! I’ve been the anchor for so long I don’t know how to change, so this was a tough decision to make. However, “new adventures can be wonderful!” 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 7:23 am
Thank you for sharing this! Making a big decision like this takes guts and is not easy, I’m glad you were able to model that for your students. I love your hashtags in the middle of your slice- it shows so much personality!
March 15, 2023 at 8:05 am
And that’s how I started each class out: Some of you have realized this already and others of you will find this out as you get older, sometimes you have to do things for yourself. They might hurt at first, but in the end, they are decision only you can make.
March 15, 2023 at 8:25 am
Darin, I loved the pacing of this slice and your use of hash tags. You have a clear voice. You are a caring teacher and are passionate about your craft. A new group of students will get to experience your magic. The last sentence is powerful and says it all.
March 15, 2023 at 10:17 am
Wow! I could feel your emotions as I read this post, as well as your dedication to your students and love of teaching. You ecked out a lesson for your students in spite of the touchy situation. Clearly, wherever you go, they’ll be lucky t have you. I had to make similar decisions several times during my teaching career. Everytime I had the courage to make a move, it turned out for the best. Good Luck!
March 15, 2023 at 4:25 pm
i hope I have your success! This is only my third school move in my career (all the others have been in the building), so this is a little nerve-wracking to say the least! Thank you for the kind words! We don’t say those things to teachers enough! 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 4:36 pm
In my experience, being willing to make a move helped me grow as a teacher and ultimately made me happier.
March 15, 2023 at 1:53 pm
Darin, your post brought tears to my eyes. Your students are so lucky to have you. I can tell without a doubt that you’re going to be deeply and truly missed. I admire your courage to be truthful and upfront with your students and to help them realize there’s a lot about life you can learn from a teacher.
March 15, 2023 at 4:21 pm
Thank you! I’m pretty up front with my students (sometime too much so), but I’ve also had former students describe me as “real”. School is so much more than reading and writing, there’s all those things that fall in between. I’m an average teacher at best, but throw the other stuff in there, and I think I do a pretty good job of teaching the whole student. But then again, what do I know?? 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 8:32 pm
I think you are a teacher I’d have wanted my own sons to have! Good luck with your new school and position.
March 15, 2023 at 3:27 pm
I’m sure it was a hard decision. Best of luck in your future endeavors!
March 15, 2023 at 4:19 pm
Thank you! 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 4:00 pm
It sounds like the description for the word “bittersweet”. That’s how I felt when I retired from teaching after 35 years. I’m now subbing part-time and loving it. Best wishes on finishing the year and starting your new journey!
March 15, 2023 at 4:18 pm
It will be in that same range when I retire. 34/35 years depending on how long I want to go. This was my test run on how that feels, giving up so much for something that I need. I’ve got five years to figure out if it was a good choice or not! 🙂
March 15, 2023 at 8:01 pm
You’ve set a good example for them, leaving under good circumstances, too. Things don’t always have to be awful to walk towards something better–that’s good for them to know. Congratulations on your new position!
March 16, 2023 at 10:59 pm
I hope they learn from little things like this! 🙂
March 26, 2023 at 11:00 pm
I hope the move works well for you. This is a tough time to be a teacher, and a tougher time to be a teacher in your area. Good luck!