I’ve been on a bit of a hiatus since the Slice of Life Challenge. My writing mojo, while primed after March, just fizzled with the onslaught of school and family, with the difficulties that each offer. We’ll try to return to the Tuesday and Friday mode of writing. 🙂
As my youngest daughter begins the stretch run for her high school career, it’s easy for me to say what I’ll miss.
Yes, I’ll miss her swimming. I’m a basketball junkie, but after 5 years of swim meets, I can honestly say I’ll miss that competition. Not that either of my daughters were state swimmers, but the teams they swam with were so good for them. Between swimming and cross country, junk sports in so many people’s minds, they found friends for life.
Yes, I’ll miss having a pipeline of information about former students. I won’t lie, as our whole grade sharing and now consolidation are just about finished, I miss the school my daughters grew up with. I miss the close knit community. I miss the bars and lemonade after choir and band concerts. But not having the high school here, that kills me. Once they leave 8th grade, they are gone, almost like a graduation as we just don’t see them anymore. And now, it will be worse because we don’t have to go to the high school any more. If we don’t have to go to music concerts, band concerts, sporting events, will we? Time will tell.
But I’ll miss the music most of all. My oldest daughter graduated two years ago, but not before she sang, “Hope is a Thing with Feathers“, with a quartet and just blew us away. My wife and I cried at this, and it was funny because our daughter came up to us later asking, “Were you crying?” Yes, dear, good music does that to you.
Next, our youngest. Last year she sang the song, “Music in my Mother’s House,” and once again, tears. Have a listen if you’d like, but the lyrics and they harmonies are just so good.
And this year. Ugh. So much emotion this year with the passing our choir director, the director who encourage both of our daughters to sing in elementary and was their freshmen and sophomore choir director. This year, during our director’s funeral, she’d picked out a song, “Light of a Clear Blue Morning,” and a former student sang the solo part. It’s a powerful, emotional song, but a song of hope, on that brought tears to many people that day. Well, on our Washington DC trip, my daughter took the roll of soloist, and this is that song in the Washington National Cathedral. The first time she sang it, a couple of days previous, I’m not sure how many dry eyes there were in the chaperones. She nailed it, singing with courage and passion, just like Janet would have liked. And a couple of Saturdays ago, was our school’s small group ensemble contest, and my daughter sang “The Mermaid Song” and “Come Unto Him” from Handel’s Messiah. Not so much tears as just being proud of how mature her voice has become (leaving snarky comments about maturity out). 🙂
I will miss the singing from both of my daughters around the house. We’d make fun of them “caterwauling” around, but it will be a major adjustment to not have that music in our lives. We travel to Ames to listen one daughter and we’ll travel to Iowa City to listen to the other, but that’s a bit far. Who knows what we’ll do, but it will be an adventure.
I wouldn’t expect anything less.
April 17, 2018 at 3:29 pm
Yes, you will miss the singing, I will miss it also. I am thankful that Luther streams their concerts so that I don’t have to make the 3 hour trip on a school night.
April 17, 2018 at 3:37 pm
I’m sure there’s something at Iowa (I hope) that we can watch online. Iowa State has been good because most of our other daughter’s concerts have been on the weekend. Keeping our fingers crossed! 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 3:33 pm
It sounds like you and your wife have done a remarkable job of raising two talented, well-rounded daughters whose participation in so many activities offered you had an extended social circle(s). Please give yourselves a hug from me for being such good parents. Yes, you’ll be on to a new phase but every phase has its compelling features as well as occasional setbacks. Of course you feel sentimental now about what you’ll be missing, but your family life will soon be full of different adventures and you will appreciate some space in your own lives….trust me!
April 17, 2018 at 3:38 pm
Thanks, those are comments I need to hear because there’s a lot of anxiety floating around right now about many things coming up. I keep saying “it will work out” but don’t think I’m always listened too! 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 4:53 pm
You have some beautiful memories in this post. Your future endeavors will certainly be different, but I hope they will also be food for slices.
April 18, 2018 at 3:14 pm
I would guess I need new topics to write about instead of the dorky things my kids have done! 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 5:15 pm
Beautiful, angelic voices! I enjoyed all of the songs and can see why you will miss the concerts-especially close to home, but who knows what new doors will open. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 5:19 pm
Looking back, it’s amazing how seasons have come and gone in my own life. Your slice is an example of the many stories I’ve heard from friends and relations who are also parents. It seems as if the blink of an eye is all it takes for milestones to be reached. My wife and I have two daughters, and seeing them as adults is wonderful. The two granddaughters (just wait!) are a lot of fun as well.
April 18, 2018 at 3:13 pm
I had to smile at your grandchildren remark. Our oldest as been dating her boyfriend for the same amount of time my wife and I dated before we got married. She made the point of telling us this before she moved back to college. We asked if this means anything, and she laughed at us with that “Gotach” look in her eye! 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 5:20 pm
Ah, there is so much for me to relate to in your post today! Firstly, my middle son will graduate from HS this May. I love that you wrote about what you will miss. You have inspired me to write a similar post. Secondly, missing the music in your house. Good luck with that! It is extremely hard! My oldest son was an accomplished musician, he took piano lessons since third grade and then played multiple band instruments by the time he graduated from HS. Several types of saxophones were played, with alto being his primary but he also performed at state solo ensemble on a soprano sax and played bari sax one year because the band needed more bass. Then, he played bassoon (well, learned to play it, again just because the band director needed someone on that instrument). He was keyboardist for the show band, accompaniment for many of his similarly talented friends and ended up being awarded exemplary soloist at the state level on piano and saxophone! We were so proud! But, of course all this music meant it was played and practiced constantly in our house – for years and years! My younger two sons stopped playing their instruments after 8th grade. My oldest has been gone for five years now (he’s in grad school in Ames – where he went to undergrad and where we attended many concerts). Living without the music is one of the most difficult transitions I have had to make. My suggestion? If you have any recordings at all, keep them handy and play them often! It helps! Thanks for sharing what you will miss!
April 18, 2018 at 3:11 pm
> My oldest has been gone for five years now (he’s in grad school in Ames – where he went to undergrad and where we attended many concerts).<
Did I know you had a son at ISU? My daugher is doing her undergrad there right now: a software engineer. I love your suggestion, and have been doing just that, finding recordings of the girls in their various groups. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I appreciate it! :
April 18, 2018 at 5:41 pm
Hi Darin, I don’t think you knew that because I don’t recall that is where one of your girls was. I know we responded to each other about soccer/sports before, and I knew you were in Iowa. My son got his degree in Applied Mathematics last year – ’17. He was in the Honors program, too and loved what that did for him, as well. He took some computer classes, too – having a “focus” in it. Stayed to do grad school in Stats. It’s been a year of transition because most of his friends got jobs and left the area. But, ISU was great for him! Loved undergrad there – I take it you’ll have a Hawkeye and a Cylone? How is that going to go over? My son going to college this fall applied to ISU but chose to go somewhere else for engineering – a “school of his own” so perhaps that is what happened in your house too. Does your daughter do any music at ISU? How about the one going this fall? I remember we looked at Univ. Iowa and they had pianos all over campus! 🙂 I am glad you are gathering their music. I found it helped me a lot….although there’s nothing like the real thing! Thanks for replying to my comments!
April 17, 2018 at 5:24 pm
So much to miss, so much to celebrate. Both of your daughters have beautiful voices. I got chills listening to the recording of “Light of a Clear Blue Morning.” Stunning! Your post really resonated with me. My youngest, our song bird, is in her junior year in college this year. When she left, it was quite an adjustment not to hear constant singing around the house. We travel to her university concerts but still miss the sound of her voice at home. It’s funny the things you miss when your children leave home. Not just them, but connections, routines, communities, and their friends. I’m rambling but really just want to say I get it. So much to miss. So much to celebrate.
April 18, 2018 at 3:07 pm
Thank you for your thoughtful reply! There will be much to miss without a doubt, yet, there will be celebrating as well. Who knows, if either of my daughters have children, there may be another generation of singers! 🙂
April 17, 2018 at 5:44 pm
I was drawn to your post because my son also is graduating from high school this year. It was interesting to read that the things you’ll miss are quite different from my own — a reminder that, while some aspects of parenting are universal, others are wedded to specific places and the personalities and interests of our offspring. You are clearly invested in your daughters’ activities, talents and growth. They are lucky to be so appreciated. I hope you find some other lovely sounds to fill the empty spaces in your home. Kudos for ending it on a high note. Empty nesting can’t be all bad, right? Enjoy the adventure!
April 18, 2018 at 3:04 pm
I would agree, empty nesting cannot be all bad! 🙂 How many kids do you have?
April 17, 2018 at 7:18 pm
Ha, my daughter sang nonstop too. in fact, she made sure to put it on her roommate form for college. 😀
April 18, 2018 at 3:03 pm
LOL! I’m almost positive my daughter did the same thing! Did your daughter sing while attending college?
April 19, 2018 at 12:05 am
No, not officially, but she still sings nonstop.