Tonight was another one of those days that just made me feel a little melancholy.
#uhoh
Nothing bad, just different. I’d planned on going to the basketball game tonight as it was my new school against my old school. We had basketball practice, so I wouldn’t get to see the junior varsity play, which I didn’t like too much. So, I’m the coach, and you know what, I can be late! So I stopped by the gym as the girls were starting to warm up because I had to tease one of my former players. She was adamant, “I’m not going out for basketball,” and “I hate basketball, why would I play it in high school?”
#ha
So I found that player, said hi to her, and asked her how the season was since she wasn’t going out for basketball. “Shut up, Mr. J,” was her response and all I could do was smile! I love it when the girls do better than they think they can.
#Itoldyouso
We had a fairly terrible practice, so it was good to get some popcorn and watch basketball. One of the reasons I went was because a player from last year emailed to “remind me” that they’d be playing and if I wasn’t too busy, could I come watch?
#awwwwwww
Hush. I had the chance to talk with a couple of teachers I’d not seen in a while and watched my former school beat my current school. One of the things we are emphasizing in practice, changing the mindset of “oh we are just _______” to “We are _______ and we can play with anyone! Tonight, you could see the mindset change in action. No, our team is not that good, but they are giving it their all and completing until the horn sounds, which doesn’t sound like this was always the case. That was my post-practice talk with the girls, how we have to work on mindset and changing it from “well, we’ll just get beat,” to “We may not win, but we will complete.” Not an easy thing, not at all, but a needed change.
The player who emailed me had a great game, but I was approached by other players and talked with them a bit as well, and that’s where the melancholy comes from. I miss that connection of being able to talk with multiple grade levels. Sure, it will come, but it just made my heart a little sad having to leave a place where I was at home because the job was wearing me down. Yes, I love teaching, and I wish I could have stayed at my old school, but I just couldn’t. I’m happy with my new teaching partner, but miss that connection to the program and to the other teachers in the building.
I’ll see them again. I loved seeing my former player. I sent an email back to her, telling her what I saw and how she should not take any sh*t for anyone for being a freshman and wanting to play. She’s got the skills and will be a starter before the season ends.
Me? I’ll keep at it in my new school, keep building the connections that I’m good at, and keep trying to help my students and players believe that they can do what they put their minds to.
It might even rub off on me too! π
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December 6, 2023 at 6:11 am
Your passion always shines when you write about your basketball teams. How exciting to see your former team play and still keep that open line of communication with the students. It sounds like you are making strides with your new team…have you begun making the cinnamon rolls for your new team yet? You know that proverbial saying, “All good things take time…and patience” π Enjoyed your story!
December 6, 2023 at 2:08 pm
Cinnamon rolls….I was asked about those by my wife if I was going to bring them out. Since we don’t have early practices, I’ve not done that yet, but we have started the tradition of bringing food to away games. I may have to make some for tomorrow! π Thanks for the reminder (and the comment)!
December 6, 2023 at 6:28 am
I enjoy your basketball stories so much! How wonderful to be able to support your former players! I’m sure that meant so much to them and they’ll always be your players no matter what. I love the end of your post and the reminder that you’re going to keep digging and doing what you do best!
December 6, 2023 at 2:07 pm
Some of them saw me and some of them didn’t which was ok. I emailed the one player and just said how proud of her that I was. It’s little things like that that keep us going. π
December 6, 2023 at 7:17 am
Darin, of course, it is not odd that after a bit of not having time to write, I find myself way behind you in the cue. BUT, it is fun knowing that it is okay to be late just like, “We may not win, but we will complete.β I hope your melancholy mood is offset by new events that make you smile.
December 6, 2023 at 2:05 pm
Yeah, the melancholy is still here, but that’s ok. It’s just part of that grieving process of what was and what will be. π
December 7, 2023 at 11:02 am
When I read this post, I thought to myself how lucky you must feel to have these experiences as a teacher. I appreciate you sharing them here. Cheers!
December 13, 2023 at 11:18 am
I agree. This year has been one of such new experiences. It’s mentally exhausting, but yet, so rewarding. Plus, I’m doing something I love, so there’s that….:)